What happens to most men as soon as they see a woman or girl they like talk to another man? They become jealous… duhhh. But what if jealousy prevents you from having the success with women you want?

And where does jealousy come from anyway?

Here’s the story of this dating article: the moment you see or heard that the woman you like was talking to another man who seemed to be a sexual threat to her (as in – there’s a chance that he could create attraction), you start to doubt yourself.

You start to doubt yourself and your own abilities, which leads to a fear of “losing the girl”. Since you obviously want to prevent that, you’ll try hard not to lose her… too hard.

You become needy for her attention and approval, you want to make sure that YOU’RE the favorite one (and often get angry if she doesn’t literally say that she likes you more than she likes him), and guess what the funny thing about that is?

By being needy, desperate and picking fights with her all the time because you’re scared of losing her… she’ll be turned off more and more, the attraction she felt for you becomes less and less and as such you create a selfulfilling prophecy and WILL lose her.

And here’s the kicker: in your own mind you’ll justify your behavior because she DOES end up seeing that other guy, but not because she liked him more… no because you behaved like a pathetic, desperate little wussy with mood swings.

Thats’s why.

But since you don’t realize that yourself, do no self-reflection and think SHE is the one to blame, you’ll go through the exact same viscious cycle as you did before whenever you “get the girl” a second time.

Conclusion: jealousy is an ego trip based on insecurities, on a lack of confidence. And now it’s time for overcoming jealousy pal… for dealing with your jealousy once and for all.

You know WHY you get insecure once they see a woman has options, once you see she can PICK who she likes, who she dates and so forth between you and a random number of other guys?

Beats me… I really don’t know… but not because I’m ignorant, no.

BECAUSE THERE IS JUST NO REASON FOR BEING JEALOUS.

Think about it: if she has options… so?

You’re the lobster for the main course and kaviar for dessert with the Dom Perignon in a classy restaurant, while those other losers are nothing more than baked potatoes.

Oeh… I wonder who she’ll pick to be with… the lobster, kaviar, Dom Perignon, and classy restaurant off course (that means you dummy!)

As you can see, just because a woman has options doesn’t mean that each option is of equal value… and I say that on purpose because if you think another man IS an actual threat to you, then you don’t feel worthy enough to be with that woman, and most of the times don’t feel worthy enough for ANY woman.

And that has nothing to do with the other guy that tries to score with her… and EVERYTHING to do with how you think and feel about yourself – it just means you don’t have enough confidence yet to deal with those “other man present” situations, and need to start working on your confidence.

The reason I’m telling you all this is because it took me 5 years to figure these kinds of things out, to start dealing with my jealousy, and these days? These days I’m not impressed by any man, anywhere that talks to my woman…

Not because I don’t think they have any value (actually, most don’t hehe..), but because I know I’m MORE than valuable enough for her to not even take those chumps seriously. And that’s REAL CONFIDENCE… the stuff you should build towards.

I’ve helped 80-100 guys from all corners of the globe to find their real confidence with exercises, fantasy pantsy writing like these that blew them away, and even out there “in the field” when they were face to face with women… and they just weren’t afraid of approaching women anymore, of whether or not they would be able to get their number, and of losing them once they “got the girl”.

Isn’t that what most men want? Not even care about all that stuff and just do business as usual if you know what I mean?

So imagine what would be different about your life when you had more confidence, if you would still care about any of that meaningless stuff… and I’ll talk to you soon with yet another bunch of awesome Inner Game insights that I’ll share with you.

Until next time… stay tuned… and start dealing with jealousy.

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women