Attraction ISN'T based on logical reasoning. We can't choose who we'll feel attracted to and we can't choose who we'll fall in love with.
The perfect example: although settling down and having kids with a nice guy may be "the right thing to do" for a woman, she'll fall madly in love with a bad boy instead… even if he is abusive, not around the most of the time, unfaithful, and has more friggin' drugs and alcohol than blood in his blood!
Whether we hate it and try to prevent it or not, attraction is a feeling based on irrational emotions… and triggered by certain fitness indicators that increase our value for the opposite sex.
And that's DESPITE of what they may think is best for them (like a rich guy, a guy from the same culture, and all that other wish list, knight in shiny armor type crap).
In fact, most of the time women WON'T BE ABLE TO TELL YOU WHAT THEY WANT because when you talk about attraction, you're talking about an age old sexual selection instinct that only takes place on a subconscious level. And it isn't like people are conscious of what takes place on a subconscious level, that's why it's called SUB… conscious: below consciousness.
Duhhh.
But do you understand what this means?
That you should NEVER pay much attention to what a woman says, not even to what a woman thinks… because all that matters is how a woman feels, so if you push the right buttons to create attraction… the buttons that spark that chemistry and sexual tension.
And that takes me back, because I've met a lot of women who were angry at first because of my "sexual agression"… but who later ended up sleeping with me because what they said was very different from what they felt. Push the right buttons and a woman can't help but feel attracted, even if she's not looking for a man, has a boyfriend, or initally rejected you.
Whether your goal is social success or dating success, or even success career wise, if there’s a need… then people will be attracted to you if you can fulfill that need.
Creating attraction is about fulfilling needs. That's it.
Women who are happy with everything they have, are, and do can’t be seduced… but almost no one is perfectly content with the life they’re living.
And that means… that EVERYONE can be seduced, because the only thing you need to know is how you can add value to their lives. If you fulfill their needs, they’ll fulfill yours.
An example of a psychological need: most women never get to GO somewhere interesting, MEET someone interesting, or DO something interesting. They’re caught in a serious trap: every day life with all it’s mind numbing routines and obligations.
Have to pay the bills, have to pay the rent, have to do grocery shopping so I can eat, have to brush my teeth, have to go to the workplace and do the tasks of my almost meaningless feeling job… not only women, but 99% of the population, is totally BORED.
People are looking for an ESCAPE from this boring ass lifestyle… which is exactly why movies, TV, music and so forth are so popular: they provide a temporary escape from the daily dulness.
And guess what? If you can BE the escape you’ll attract more women than the number of bees that are attracted to honey. GO somewhere with them they (almost) never went, DO something with them they don’t usually do, BE the adventure for them.
If you’re living a lifestyle that’s exciting and far from ordinary, you're creating attraction on the spot. You’ll be a woman’s escape from the daily routines. It’s exactly why women go absolutely crazy over celebrities, because they think they live a super exciting lifestyle! They believe in the illusion of excitement and grandness, which is the one thing most celebrities use for creating attraction.
Scientists did a research project during the 70s where they looked at what single quality attracted the most women to a guy. It wasn’t looks, money, or social status… but the level of novelty seeking.
Let me repeat that: the guys who were the most successful with women where the guys that did unordinary stuff, went to unordinary places and said unordinary stuff… because they provided the biggest and best escape from daily life!
Like I said: creating attraction is about fulfilling needs, in fact, I've met my girlfriend and two exes before her by catering to their psychological needs. Famous author Robert Greene writes about the theory behind this in his book, The Art Of Seduction. I just took it one step further.
Creating attraction isn't so hard when you understand and have experienced this ONE principle, it's all you need if you know how to use it...
And I'll talk to you soon,
Dennis Miedema
Win With Women
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