Being unordinary equals being unpredictable, because you do stuff that no one’s doing… and being unpredictable is the KEY to why bad boys are so attractive to women.
Why? Because bad boys are FULL of contradictions:
- He is the dangerous, extremely confident man who doesn't give a crap about society, rules, or any form of authority and is full of adventure… BUT he’s also the small, innocent boy in a big man's body that needs saving in a moment of weakness because he can't help himself
- He's the perfect escape from boring every day life filled with its routines, nagging and obligations BUT the escape is only temporarily, sooner or later a woman knows that her heart will be broken, and she accepts... because he was only an escape, he "doesn't count"
- When a bad boy is with a woman, he lives in the moment, and makes love to her like it's the last thing he'll ever do: raw, passionate sex and always making her feel so very CLOSE to him... BUT there are also the times he vanishes into thin air, nowhere to be seen, nothing to be heard, who knows if the rebel in him will ever want to come back to you..
- When you're with him as a woman, he's oh so sweet and caring BUT when you disagree or argue with him? he's stonecold, harsh, full of criticism and downright abusive to women
- If you pay close attention to his posture, his gestures, how he moves and his entire body language? Nothing seems more natural, and in control than he does... superbly dominant over his surroundings BUT get him angry and he loses all that control, he turns into a living hell…
So know you know why bad boys are so attractive to women, how can you as man become more of a bad boy without the abusing? Good question and I'm glad you asked!
It’s using a bad boy’s traits to your own advantage.
The Bad Boy Character Traits That Explain
Why Bad Boys Are So Attractive To Women
The first one is Being Close – Being Far Away. Why does being really close to her at one moment and being out of reach for her the next work?
The moments you’re not there make the moments you were intimate with her that much better. Think about it: if you’re there every day, then every day is an 8 to her on a scale from 1-10. Now imagine you’re gone for a day and she has WAY less fun, her day was like a 2 or something. The difference between day 1 you’re there and day 2 you’re gone is HUGE, so gosh… would she value the days you’re there more?
Duhhh.
Even if you haven’t been on a date with her you can use this to your advantage: have large amounts of fun with her on day 1 and do something else without talking to her on day 2 and I can guarantee you that she’ll come asking for more the next day by texting, calling or trying to see you… SHE’LL CHASE YOU.
And once she has noticed that she has way more fun and is happier when you’re around than when you’re gone, you’re in for a treat! It’s the economy at work really:
If there is more demand than there are supplies, the value goes up… in this case YOUR value goes up. So don’t be around every friggin’ day and try to talk to her every day because then there are more supplies than there is demand, and just like with the economy your values drops until your worthless.
And most men wonder why women don’t feel attraction anymore, it’s because of what I just explained. That doesn’t mean women are evil demons that come from the depths of hells, or that the world is satanic, it’s simply a matter of if you give someone too much… they get spoiled.
I know from experience that being gone more than being there DOUBLES the attraction, becomes she’ll have to make an effort of keeping you around… you’re a challenge. She’ll have to work for you, chase you around. Does that make you more attractive than 9 out of 10 guys? YES, because a woman almost NEVER has to chase, so the one she has to chase is the most interesting guy to her…
Here are some examples of using this contradiction:
- Approach a woman in a club or bar, leave, and come back later on. Nothing displays confidence more than being willing to leave. And the effect of being gone? Well, see above for why this works dummy!
- Women have stuff to do, they actually have a life, but they enjoy talking to you. So quite often they’ll talk with you although they have stuff to do, and insisting she goes ahead and does it and that you won’t talk anymore until she has done it… it will make you come across like you’re a 100% NOT desperate, and again it gives her the gift of missing you. Btw: this works every time a woman can choose between doing something with you and doing something else.
- Got her phone number? Send some text messages back and forth the next day and start teasing her, getting to know her more, etc. do the same thing the next day, but don’t do anything or reply to anything on day 3. Works with emails, MSN Messenger or Yahoo messenger, with text messages and with calling her. It always works: the next day she’ll approach YOU first (just wait and see).
- Always be the first one to leave, hang up, and go offline and always be the one who has less time to spend with a woman than she can spend with you.
Don’t even start with “but won’t I lie to her then?” No, because even if you have no friends to see… then just enjoy yourself with a movie, a game, a book. Whatever. Enjoy yourself WITHOUT her.
And also don’t give me the “won’t I hurt her feelings then?” No, because she will enjoy the times you are there WAY more, she’ll enjoy your company WAY more… so you’re actually doing her a favor. Women go crazy over a bad boy, trust me, you want to be one... without the physical abuse and drugs problems that is!
So a bad boys's ability to be close at one moment and be "out of reach" the next is one of the reasons for why bad boys are so attractive to women and if you want to know more reasons, all of them and how YOY can be as attractive as bad boys, then I suggest you sign up for my dating newsletter below!
And I'll talk to you soon,
Dennis Miedema
Win With Women
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