If you want to know the secrets of successfully calling women to ask them out, voice control is probably the most imporant one, and by voice control I mean how you use your voice.
Does it AMPLIFY the attraction or does it KILL the attraction?
When you talk with a woman she knows what you mean not because of the words you use but by HOW you say them. People commonly focus on the tone of voice, and body language of the person, rather than the actual words being said when they’re looking for meaning.
In short it means that a woman can HEAR you being insecure, uncomfortable with the situation, nervous, shy, and more… and that you’ll need to work on your voice tone if you don’t want to mess things up for yourself and want to create as much attraction as humanly possible during a single phonecall.
So how do you use speech to BOOST the attraction when you're calling women?
Below you’ll find several techniques for successfully calling women to ask them out by improving the control you have over your voice, and thus how much meaning you can give to anything you say. I’m not saying you should use ALL of these or you’ll fail, I’m saying you should find the one that suits you best and stick with it.
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Technique #1: How Fast You Talk
When you talk too fast it’s a sign of stress, anxiety, nervousness or being in a rush. Since dominance is one of THE most attractive character traits, let’s relate it to speech here: being dominant means being in control of your environment and leading HER. Talking very fast or uninterrupted (where it seems like there’s no beginning and end to a sentence) shows anxiety, nervousness… which conveys that you feel stressed about the current circumstances, and thus that you’re NOT in control. So how do you convey dominance than?
SLOW DOWN! Don’t go and talk one word per minute now, but make it your aim to slow down the speed at which you pronounce your sentences and words. Most humans don’t have BREAKS between words (the average break is believed to be less than half a second!), so a natural way of coming across more relaxed and comfortable, more dominant is by having breaks. Instead of: “Hey how you doing?” from now on say Hey..how you doing? I call this STRETCHING.
Once you have this one down you can try more advanced stretching by stretching words themselves without using a different pitch (tone height). Sounds difficult doesn’t it? Just compare these: oh really? OR…ow reaaaally? First one’s normal speech, second one is stretched. What does it do? The second one is the one that comes across as teasing, like you know more than her or are having a dirty mind then and there… think about it!
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Technique #2: Your Intonation
Intonation is the pitch, the stress and emotion with which you talk on the phone. The pitch is the tone height: think about how a woman greets her female friends and how a man greets his friends. The stress and emotion: you talk differently when you’re angry or crying… but what’s a good way to generate attraction with intonation? Simple: do NOT use high tones under stress, in conflict, to greet people etc. for anything else than teasing someone with it… you’re a man with BALLS aren’t you? So sound like you got a pair then! Because a LOT of men unconsciously shift to a high pitched voice when they’re in a rush, a fight, nervous, or amazed. DON’T.
The only right reason for using a high pitched voice I can think of is this one: to playfully tease the woman you’re talking to by imitating her.
A low voice tone (low pitch) is considered sexy. Don’t believe me? Please download some Isaac Hayes, see if you think he’s more sexy when it comes to voice tone than Michael Jackson. You don’t necessarily HAVE to have a low voice just to generate attraction though but hey… throwing in a little bass in your voice every now and then doesn’t hurt anyone, does it?
Successfully Caling Women Technique #3:
Using Pause In your Phone Calls
When in conversations that require the use of our thinking mind, for example to explain the solution to a problem to someone or just any other one that goes deeper than saying “Hi”… us humans tend to use STOP WORDS. Stop words are words like uhm... uhh… pff… and frankly they convey indefiniteness, uncertainty about what’s being said and sometimes even plain DUMBNESS which is why you want to STOP using them if you want to use your voice for generating attraction. If you need to think don’t verbalize it, just be quiet… it had amazing effects for me: people suddenly saw me as a MUCH more powerful, dominant, straight to the point kinda guy!
What’s every storytellers’ KEY tool for making you want to hear more? Tension, suspense. Just compare these: do you like all kinds of emat? OR: do you like all kinds of… meat? First one’s normal, second one comes across NAUGHTY in most cases. As you can see, you should use pause in your speech with timing as you can increase the tension of whatever you’re saying. Some other examples to clarify this: what feels better for you: this… or that? You know when I was young, I was this badboy outside getting in trouble all day, but now… I’m a little angel.
So you can use pauses in your sentences and time them either to convey you’re being naughty about something, to create tension (a cliffhanger) OR for being mysterious.
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Technique #4: The Volume You Use
Most guys make the mistake of talking monotonously: they talk with the same volume all the freaking time which can get REALLY annoying… AND boring. I mean, where is the excitement, the FUN? So how DO you use volume efficiently then?
First things first: low volume. There’s something about whispering that REALLY gets women’s buttons pushed, so whenever you get the chance: grab it! You can also tease her with it if she’s being unclear about something: blablabla and you’re like wtf is SHE talking about? Then whisper to her: what did you say? She’ll ask why you’re whispering and you reply with: now you know what it feels like to not understand a damn thing of what somebody is saying!
That’s a good tease right there… and you can also start whispering randomly and have fun with it (most of the time they’ll join in), and then accuse her of sounding like a perv, a pedophile etc. whenever she starts to whisper!
In fact, low volume is PERFECT for teasing when it comes to being mysterious about it. Say what? Examples to clarify: (you) you know what they say about horse riders, right? (her) What? (you) oh… nothing (with low volume).
And then there’s using a high volume when talking to her. The easiest application is to talk LOUDER during emphasizing: WHAT did you just say? It makes the entire conversation much more interesting and exciting.
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Your Friend Dennis Miedema
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